I have said a lot of hateful things about feminism so now I want to talk a bit about the things that I support about feminism:
- The idea that we should have choice! Liberation, the freedom to choose your path in life, the freedom to be everything or nothing… it is something I support.
- The idea that being the majority does give you privileges that you may not be able to easily see.
- The idea that oppression should be addressed and corrected in some way.
- They stand up for gay rights (something I support), they speak out about inherited privileges (except when females benefit), they are against stereotyping, against racism and institutionalizes injustices.
- They have a good heart, want to help men and women and want to be free of societal boxes and roles that do not fit our current environmental reality.
All of the above is amazing and would make me a feminist if I was a member of one of the minority groups that they are currently fighting for social justice for. But I am not in one of those groups, I am often a part of the majority group and while I agree that the minorities need more attention than me I also see that feminists have a tendency to trample over the rights of the majority in their quest to help the minority. And that is what I want to fight against.
Is it fair for them to trample over the privileged majority considering that the majority has benefited so much more than they even realize? Maybe. But it does not feel right to me, it does not support my interest and it is also a call for me and others like me to fight back and say HEY WE EXIST AS WELL, not all women want to take on the roles men have had traditionally, not only gay people have issues being ridiculed for their sex life. People who are inclined to the social order known as the patriarchy also exist and by smashing the patriarchy you are hurting us. And there has to be a way to address the needs of both the under privileged and the privileged at the same time.
So yea, for the minorities and people who feel that patriarchal lifestyles do not fit their needs feminism is great. I support feminism for those people as much as I support and want a traditionalist movement for people like me. I am not a feminist, but had I been otherwise inclined, I could very well have been.