A lot of MRAs say that women against feminism in a traditional sense are wrong because we are essentially selfish. One MRA today called me a “selfish whore”. I am a whore because I married my husband just so that he would take care of me and my babies. I said that I did look for a guy who would be able to and want to take care of me financially when looking and this was considered by me when choosing a husband.
So I want to address two points in this post.
1) Are traditional women against feminism for selfish reasons? Or do we care about men and society as well?
2) Is marriage a form of prostitution when a person does not only marry purely for love?
About the first question my answer is YES. We traditional women are by and large selfish. We also think that men and society would benefit from the death of feminism. But what really drives us into rage against feminism is not the plight of men, or the plight of society. It is our own selfish driven fears that men will no longer care for us, that we won’t be able to spend time with our kids, that we will have to work and care for kids, that we will be abandoned by men and that we cannot handle the weight and responsibilities of children and ourselves alone.
It is scary. Very scary, because we see that we need men, we see that it is okay to need men. We see that we simply cannot do it on our own and we do not want to. So yea we are selfish, that does not mean that what we have to say does not count though. It also does not mean that we do not care about men at all or that no part of us is society centered. Everyone has self-centered parts and society-centered parts. It also does not mean that our arguments are not valid and logical and worth being respected.
Also it is worth remembering that when fighting a war the best fighters are the ones who have the most to gain from winning the war. So from an MRA point of view it should not matter what traditional women want or why we are anti-feminism. In fact that fact that we have something to gain from this should be seen as something positive since it means that we are more likely to be better motivated than women who have nothing to gain at all.
Now to answer the second question unfortunately I have to say YES again. Marriage as I see it is a form of prostitution. It does not mean that no feelings are involved and that love is not a part of marriage. And of course it must be noted that the biggest difference between prostitution and marriage is that marriage is a long-term prostitution contract; where the kids are considered and their welfare is put first and access to their parents and to investments from their parents are insured.
Eliminate kids from the picture and guess what society would have no problem with prostitution if the act was done without the prostitute being tricked or forced into such a decision. So just because something is like prostitution does not mean it is bad. And yes; in some sense this traditional woman is a selfish prostitute. Now that we have gotten that out of the way I wish they would listen to what I have to say about society and our future success as a society being dependent on reproduction and the male female relationship!