I am a Traditional Woman’s Rights Activist. Like feminists, MRAs and Egalitarians; the TWRAs simply want equality for men and women. The difference between our approach and the approach of feminists, MRAs and Egalitarians is that we acknowledge and embrace that in general there are differences between the two sexes.
We think that the traditional model was equality. Women had children and did work that was compatible with raising children while men did the jobs that were incompatible with raising children. In general they both contributed equally to the family unit and to society. Women contributed childcare and work that could be done while caring for children. The type of work women could do was therefore more limited than the type of work men could do and because half of the population was available to do this type of work; ‘’woman’s work’’ became undervalued.
So TWRA hope to change the way traditionally female work is seen by society and hope to make ‘’woman’s work’’ as equally valued by society as ‘’man’s work’’. Woman’s work is work that is compatible with raising children. In the very recent past that was homemaking; and being a homemaker at that time was a very real economic contribution because if housewives did not do house work someone would have to be paid to do it. Today, because of technology ‘’women’s work’’ has changed. Homemaking (like cooking, cleaning and general housework) has become a lot easier than it once was, at the same time though childcare has become a lot harder since mothers can no longer depend on extended family/neighbors to be present.
Women today who want to settle down with males who want to be the main breadwinner and who want to stay at home and primarily take care of the house-work and children are generally seen as lazy or gold diggers and this is simply not true. The issue is with the fact that society refuses to acknowledge their contributions to the family and society as real contributions. To the men who say that they do not want to settle down with a traditional woman, would you have a problem settling down with a nanny? Or with someone who has a minimum wage job? What is the difference between a mother who takes care of her children all day and a nanny? Why is the mother seen as lazy when the nanny is not? What is the difference in economic contributions between a woman who makes minimum wage and a mother whose economic contribution is not sending her kids to daycare which often cost more than a minimum wage job pays?
We as a society have to start acknowledging that woman’s work is real work. It may not be as valuable as work that was traditionally male work because it is limited to easier work or work that could be done while caring for children but it is still very real work. And if it is equality that we seek between men and women part of the equation is giving equal value to both type of work (regardless of how common or unavoidable women’s work is and has historically been). TWRAs think that men and women can be equal in value while maintaining certain differences and having very different roles. A key and a lock can be equal to society if they are both worth the same amount of money for example. If people would pay a euro for the lock and a euro for the key then the lock and the key are equal.
The lock and they key are however, not interchange able. If you have a lock you need a key and another lock just will not do and vice versa. When feminists and MRA say equality what they really mean in interchangeability, and for most men and women this is not ideal. You see essentially without science we can define women and men by saying women make babies and feed infants and men do not make babies or feed infants freeing them up to do other things with their time. And an evolutionary history with such a reality would have prepared women more so than men to care for children. In general men and women naturally have different focuses and that does not mean that men should not take part in childcare activities or that women should make no economic contributions but it does mean that for most men and women it makes sense to embrace having different focuses.
Also in defense of housewives who do not have children, if you would not condemn a waitress for marrying a millionaire, then you cannot condemn a housewife for marrying a working man. Housewives who do not have children DO contribute to the household in an economic sense; they just contribute less than their husbands.
In conclusion TWRA do want equality, we just would also like society to acknowledge that there is a difference between men and women and that two people do not need to act exactly the same or to have the same types of jobs or to be equally represented in parliament in order to be considered equals. Equality should be defined by how we value each other, the amount of respect that we pay to each other, our overall contributions to society, and should be independent of how much money a person makes.