Do feminists really want to give women more choices or to take away the choices that women once had?

Feminists claim that they just want to give women more choice but it is clear from the questions that they ask that they (just like me) have an agenda. When was the last time you heard a feminist say there are not enough stay at home mothers? When was the last time they complained about there not being enough housewives? Or that more mothers should have the choice to work from home?

According to this article more than 40% of working women would prefer to work from home, and I am sure that percentage would increase if you asked that question solely to mothers. Many other polls that I have seen on mothering websites etc, show that there are many, many, many women out there who would like to stay at home close to their children and work from there but do not have the option/choice. So if feminism had no agenda and actually cared about obtaining what women want then would they really be asking why there aren’t more female scientist or politicians or judges.

Have they done polls on how many women want to be scientist but do not have the choice? Or how many women want to be politicians but can’t? Because I am sure if they did they would see no gender difference when doing polls like that. Women, more so than men do want choice. Of all the mothers I know who stay at home they all HAVE a choice, because all women have the choice to work! Every one of them has the option to put their kids in day care and work. Sure their entire pay check and maybe even some of his would go to day care but these women are the ones with choices. I cannot say the same for working mothers. There are undoubtedly some working mothers with choice but most that I know work either because they need the money or because their husbands and sometimes they themselves feel they should be contributing economically.

Why then aren’t feminist fighting aggressively against the perception that women must work in order to contribute economically? Why aren’t they fighting against the idea of men thinking women must contribute economically? Do you really think there are more men who think women should not work than they are who think they should? Because I would like to see a poll to prove that. It is clear from the questions that feminists ask that they have an agenda. And that agenda is to make society approve of working women. They could care less about what women actually want, and they could care less about making sure that homemaking is respected by men and women as a legitimate choice.

Why aren’t there more female scientist or judges? Maybe because women do not want those jobs and would prefer to be housewives or work from home and live in a society with males who are educated and responsible enough to support, marry and make babies with them. Sure we also want the freedom to work and become a scientist, politician or judge but we already have that and having 50 percent of the scientist being female will not change the fact that we currently have the freedom to become anything we want!  In fact it will limit our freedom because you can be sure that there will be female scientist who resent not having the choice to be a stay at home mother. More proof that women actually want the opportunity to stay home more than the opportunity to work is below:

What’s more, 68 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 34 say they would prefer to stay at home and raise their children to working outside the home, according to a national poll conducted in 2000 by the Manhattan-based market research firm, Youth Intelligence.

From: Women who want to stay at home.

Compared with people who had never been married, those who were married at the time of the survey were more likely to say that working mothers made it harder to raise kids (82 vs. 62 percent), more likely to say that working mothers made it harder for marriages to succeed (56 vs. 37 percent), more likely to say that kids were better off with their mothers at home (56 vs. 30 percent), and more likely to say that unwed motherhood was a big problem (74 vs. 44 percent). In nearly every case, the gap between marrieds and never-marrieds was bigger than the gap between the youngest age group (18–29) and the oldest (65+). If you want to predict what somebody thinks about women and families, marital experience is a better clue than age.

From: Do marriage and parenthood make you conservative?

2012- 84% of working women told ForbesWoman and TheBump that staying home to raise children is a financial luxury they aspire to.

What’s more, more than one in three resent their partner for not earning enough to make that dream a reality.

From: Opting out the new American dream for women.

A survey revealed that 52 per cent of mothers return to work because they cannot afford to stay at home bringing up their children.

Only a small minority, just 22 per cent, return because they actually want to continue their career.

From: Women with choice choose motherhood.

If money were no object, 54 percent of working mothers would make a different choice, compared with 9 percent of mothers who stay at home.

From: Mommy Wars or More on Mommy Wars.

This article claims the opposite of what I am saying yet still mentions that;

Pew Research Center report released in March found that 32 percent of moms with children under age 18 think the ideal situation is to work full-time, while 47 percent said they would prefer to work part-time. Twenty percent said they would prefer not to work at all.

Other articles on this topic:

More women want to stay at home. 

Feminists need to make peace with the fact that some women want to stay home. 

Women choose to stay at home.

It’s easier on families when women stay home.

Retro housewife.

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3 thoughts on “Do feminists really want to give women more choices or to take away the choices that women once had?

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